Saturday, June 26, 2010
Secrets
I really hate keeping things a secret. Secrets are ok if it's about a surprise party or a gift for someone. Secrets are not ok when it comes to relationships with people you love. My GF keeps secrets. I have no clue what monumental secrets she might be keeping from me, but the secrets she's keeping from her family are driving me insane. Her father still does not know about me. We've been together for almost 5 years! I understand that it's not easy to come out to her dad, but how long is she going to keep this a secret? And that's not the only reason I'm upset about secrets. No one in her family is aware that we could be having a child. That wouldn't be a big deal, except that her sister shares the apartment with us. I think she should know. Plus why wouldn't we want to share this wonderful news with family? I don't get why she isn't ready to say anything to CJ. It's less than a week until the pregnancy test. I imagine that day is going to be really awkward. We have friends coming over to be here when we get the news. What is the GF going to do about CJ? Just throw it out there at the last minute? I don't think that's fair. But I don't know what to do.
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I'm sorry to hear that your so stressed. I know how irked you are about the whole thing. The only thing I can tell you is to sit down the GF and have a point blank discussion with her. Tell her that it is very important that you tell CJ soon. Even if CJ is upset maybe if you give her time to think about it before the pregnancy test she will eventually be ok with it and maybe even possibly share in your joy if its positive. Simply tell the GF that the longer you wait the more likely it is that CJ is going to be upset. Even if she isn't upset by the pregnancy thing she will still be upset that her sister didn't bother to tell her what was going on.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the GF's dad. I have no clue. Somehow you need to make it clear to her how important this is to you. If you guys are going to have a baby her dad is going to have to know sooner or later. That is definitely something that can't be hid forever. I truly don't think he is going to be as upset as she thinks. He might be a little upset or grumpy about it but I think that eventually he will be ok with it. I really wonder if maybe he does know and just isn't going to indicate that until the GF comes clean with him. I mean really its a possibility.